As we know, if you want to become a better lover, the place to start is by developing your leadership skills. When it comes to "inside the bedroom", your lady does not want to have to tell you what to do. She wants you to be able to create a journey that she can relax and enjoy.
Knowing what to say, and when, is a big part of how you take her mind on an erotic journey that will open her up in ways she has never experienced before.
That said, before you can start guiding her mind, you need to have her undivided attention. With so much emphasis on verbal communication in our teachings, some of the students of Intimate Harmony have been wondering about the role of nonverbal cues, like physical touch, in the style of erotic connection that we help you to develop. Well, one area in which nonverbal communication can be tremendously helpful is in capturing your lady's attention in the first place - an important prerequisite to leading her effectively.
In the September edition of Bliss Monthly Journal, an Intimate Harmony Member's exclusive, I cover two types of nonverbal communication you can start using today that are great at capturing a woman's attention and keeping her wondering what you are about to do next. This creates a psychological connection that sets the stage for your powerful leadership.
These tools are tremendously useful whether you are just beginning a brand new relationship, trying to rekindle an existing one, or you've got plenty of sparks flying and you want the power to take things to the next level.
These two types of communication I have dubbed "pleasure" and "mock threat".
The Action Step for this month's edition of the Journal is to watch the two videos below, which further exemplify how social mammals (such as humans) respond to mock threat, and the sensitivity to secure connection that lies behind our use of mock threat.
In the Journal, I used an example of a mother playing peek-a-boo with her child. The video on The Still Face Experiment will show you why the simple game of peek-a-boo is ultimately about some of a child's deepest needs for safety.
And in the video of me and my dog, you can see the pseudo-threatening aspects of mock threat and how mock threat is used by social mammals to initiate play. I then contrast this with a demonstration of body language that initiates pleasure.
The more you can master nonverbal cues such as these, the more power and impact your verbal communication will have when you go to use some of the more advanced words-based techniques that we explore together.
To receive the September Edition of Bliss Journal, go to www.intimate-harmony.com and click "Become a Member". This edition of the Journal will no longer be available come October 1st, 2022, so act soon.
The Still Face Experiment:
Lena and Her Dog Demonstrate Play, i.e. "Movement Without Fear", and Intimacy, i.e. "Stillness Without Fear" (Note: the terms "movement without fear" and "stillness without fear" are courtesy of Stephen Porges in his work on Polyvagal Theory):