David Shade informed us that "emotional connection is the grease on the slide to sex". And it comes as no surprise to most men that a woman of high self esteem needs to feel close to her man before she can fully let go. But how does one build emotional connection, really?
In the July 2022 edition of the Bliss monthly journal, we look at a powerful way to frame the meaning of sex so that whatever physical acts you engage in with your lady harmonize perfectly with her emotional needs.
In short, we uncover how to frame sex as "a celebration" according to the definition of celebration provided by Nonviolent Communication.
If sex is anything less than a celebration, it is then just an escape from physical pressure, cheap entertainment, submission to an addiction, or some kind of aggression. If sex becomes any one of those things, then it becomes a kind of sex that turns the woman off and diminishes her responsiveness. It turns into the kind of sex that makes the woman increasingly less interested in engaging in sex on those terms. These are all types of sex that make the woman feel used or abused in some way, and so they violate her dignity and create very negative associations to sexual activity. If she can’t have positive associations to an activity, she is not going to want to engage in that activity. Plain and simple.
Find out how to keep your partner willing and eager with my article "Sex as Celebration" in the July edition of Bliss here.
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To deepen your understanding of what is meant by "celebration" in NVC, check out the video below where you can hear Marshall Rosenberg describe his concept of celebration in his own words.
Intimate Harmony members, this is your action step for July! Listen to the following video and imagine how you can incorporate the elements of what Marshall means by "celebration" into the way you communicate about intimacy and desire with the lady in your life. Lead well!